Being black and handling your Natural hair. What is that all about?

Hi guys…..…..i was thinking back to when I first started going on my Natural Hair Journey. this is how it started….I had decided to go natural but I needed to do a lot of research first, as usual. So in looking at many pictures on Pinterest, I fell in love with the short natural hairstyle. The shortcut was just very sexy and so cute, to me it was a fantastic look…..

So I fell in love with the natural short hair cut and when my relaxed hair started to grow out, instead of transitioning, I decided to cut it all off. So that is what I did. I didn’t bother with going through that annoying stage of transitioning from the relaxed to the natural. The thing is most women are afraid of this choice, why? Allot of women I meet on the street tend to ask me …..”what did you do to transition” and when I tell them I didn't I just cut it all off, most of these women say…OH NO!! I can’t do that I don’t have the face for it”….or “ Nah I Can’t do that I don’t have the shaped head for that”…What they are really saying is that they are afraid of this process because it’s so drastic and it means that they can’t hide behind their hair as the focus of their beauty. To women our hair is a major player in making us feel good about ourselves or to feel beautiful.

But to me there is no such thing as looking bad with a short natural hairstyle. The bold look is a beauty in itself. It also takes a lot of courage on the part of that woman, to show all of herself, all of her features. To me the short hairstyle looks good on everyone. When your hair is cut that short your face is now the prominent part of you. People see you. Woman fear being seen and with a short cut she can no longer hide behind her hair. She is being seen as she is. I have no problem with that and I had no problem with that. It’s didn’t allow that fear or uncertainty to prevent me from trying what I wanted to.

I know every single woman is beautiful in their own right and when you go short all you have to do is ROCK IT. You play it up, wear the amazing makeup, wear the huge earrings, wear the head wraps, wear the amazing makeup that makes your eyes pop because you do look beautiful and there's no such thing as “my head isn't shaped for a short haircut”. My sister-in-law was always wearing wigs or weaves or braids. For as long as I have known her that all she wore. I didn’t know what her natural hair looked like. Never saw her au natural.

And for as long as I've known her it bothered me, I really wanted to tell her to stop it. Stop wearing wigs and weaves because they were damaging her hair. At least that's my opinion. I think wigs and weaves stifle your hair. Your hair needs to breathe, your hair can’t grow if it can’t breath. Your hair gets very badly treated when you wear those “things” constantly. Your hair needs to breathe, and your head is able to feel the air, to finally breathe when you give it a break and a long one from those “things”.

I finally told her what I felt, I told her she needed to stop wearing those things and she had reached a point where she was going to redo her hair and I think she also wanted a change. My words must have sunk in because as the hairdresser asked her if to refresh the weave?.... she decided to not bother and instead of replacing the weave she told her to cut it all off. She went even further than I did, she went almost completely bald.

And even though in doing that you saw the patches/spaces where hair had suffered, I told her her face was now prominent and her beauty now shone through. She looked really good. The shape of her face, her eyes, it was like seeing them for the first time. And then my girl stared to ROCK IT. The big earrings, the makeup, she looked GOOD!!!

The short haircut enhances the features you always had but her features with a little makeup and stylish earring and she looked amazing. So my my words to all the women out there…. there's no such thing as you don't have the head shape for a natural short haircut. My daughters, after seeing me go natural they all went natural as well. One cut her hair short like I didi and the other daughter, whose hair was at the middle of her back…. she had a relaxer ….and I never thought she would ever cut it since long hair was a big thing for her…. she cut it all off and OMG!!! she was the cutest thing I've ever seen.

So don't let fear hold you back you are beautiful. And remember hair grows back. I will talk some more in my next post about why I stopped relaxing my hair. There are five reasons for me against having relaxed hair. I didn't know about the beauty of natural hair while I was young because my mother never allowed me to experience it and although I loved and enjoyed my relaxed hair, I don't regret moving away from it, but I do regret not having had the opportunity to experiment and experience my natural hair , to especially see how far I could have taken it. But everything happens in its own time, I'm doing that now, I’m having my experience and I thank you for sharing my story and this journey with me.

I'll see you at my next post love you all have a great day.